Saturday, March 05, 2016

To the kid shat in my Autistic sons tent at camp … I feel sorry for you.

My Son is by no means perfect, he can be annoying, he can come across as rude and yes he’s odd. He frustrates me and drives me wild. In his short life, all 11 of them, he’s been teased, called names, made fun of, humiliated, provoked, as well as physically assaulted all because he doesn’t conform to what society says he should be, because he has Asperger Syndrome, a form of Autism.

To the child who shat in my son’s tent at school camp I feel sorry for you.  
You must be truly a sick individual. You are a coward for not coming forward when questioned and for not taking responsibility for your actions.  You are a disgusting individual.   You truly need some help.  You are a sadistic piece of work.  I really feel sorry for you.

What you don’t know is that this is just one of many things that happen to my son on a daily basis.  My son's comment to me when I found out about this disgusting act was “someone mustn’t like me much”.  This was said lightly and with a smile. Thankfully his Autism hasn't allow him to process this fully, what this act signifies but it will one day. 

But it will one day!  
My husband and I are very fearful of that day.  The day when our beautiful kind hearted boy, who only wants to have friends, puts two-and-two together.  When he adds up all the times he’s been shoved, humiliated, laughed out, decimated against, left out and much, much, more.  What will he do then?

Will he consider suicide? 

Will he turn to drugs or alcohol to numb the pain?

Will he finally lash out?   Will he attack or threaten another person? Will he take a gun to school? Will he damage property? 

We hear it happen and usually society blames the parents, they blame the education system, they blame the government. 

Do these abusers stop of a second and think about my son's life? Do they think about all the other people who hurt my son on a daily basis?  

Do they blame themselves?
All those people who have

  • put a person with a disability into the too hard basket
  • who rolled their eyes when they think the person isn't looking
  • who are blatantly rude or simply ignore people with a disability
  • who laugh at the disabled person's expense
  • who pulled a humiliating pranks
  • who purposely do things to get a reaction out of a person with Austism
Do you ever think that what you are doing is wrong and harmful?  What if someone did this to you on a daily basis?  Would you like it?  

So to the person who shat in my son’s tent at camp, I ask you to consider your actions. 
Consider his family.  His crying and deeply upset Mum.  His Dad who wants to protect his son but who can’t be at school everyday to stand guard.  His brother and sister who do not have a disability but have a disability-by-proxy.  Jon's siblings have to deal with the fall out and at times face the brunt of your actions, my two other kids get teased and excluded because of their brother.   

Lastly I want you to know that while you live your so-called normal life, where you will never face the day to day struggles my son faces, the following is happening in the Autism community.
  • Almost 40% of the autistic population was treated for anxiety versus 17% in the general population.
  • The numbers for depression were a close second – just a couple percentage points less.
  • Suicide attempts were the most troubling – near 2%.  Can you believe almost one in 50 autistic adults attempted suicide at least once in that five year period?

    (Taken from Look me in my eyes
So next time you think about taking a dump in someone tent or anywhere for that matter, I hope you think about what the impact of your actions will be.


Further reading:




Autistic Symptoms Make Higher Risk for Substance Abuse